Dating why bother
It will feel okay because we have already put distance in-between us and our partner—we no longer see ourselves in them—and so the goodbye has been said long ago, even if we are just breaking up today. There is actually a point during the breakup when we feel like the world is over.
If we are in love with someone…well…we all know how that goes. We become so consumed by this feeling that the logic of the universe ceases to exist. We are still contained inside this body, and we take this body with us when we breakup, so we are still here—completely intact (unless limbs were claimed during the process of goodbye)—ready to stroll.
I want to feel that my sharing is received delicately and handled lovingly, for when that happens, I feel as if I can share anything and I can become God at any time. This means that when I show up after a long day and I have weights on me from someplace and I’ve been mulling over some bullshit thing someone said to me earlier and I want to share this with my partner, sometimes he is not in a place to receive it.
But we all know relationships have two people (sometimes more). This makes sense because he’s a person too, and some nights he has weights on him from someplace and has been mulling over some bullshit thing someone said to him earlier.
She believes — and I agree — that more people need to talk openly about this because all older women hear (and thus believe) is that older men are them from the 50-something dating pool ASAP; I’m not interested in men like that so move along, men, and good luck! As a newly single woman after an eight-plus year relationship, I am curious about what to expect this time, now that I’m 50-something instead of 40-something.
I, too, am not looking for a husband (although I’m not necessarily against marrying), but I most definitely would like a partner — uhh, with conditions.
But that’s just the kind of hurt that we find during the relationship itself—that’s the hurt we find during the part of the relationship where we both still like each other. The kind of hurt we find during the breakup—when one or both people decide to throw in the towel—is probably some of the biggest hurt we’ll ever feel.
That isn’t true for my three girlfriends, but it’s true for me.The persistent belief is that women are looking for long-term committed relationship and men are looking for short-term sexual relationships.That may be true for younger people, but that isn’t always the case at this age, she says.We know this because we have gotten hurt in every single other relationship we have ever had.It doesn’t matter if we find ourselves in unhealthy relationships or healthy relationships—we will get hurt throughout the process of dating, courting, developing emotionally intimacy, sharing years together, dying.